Happiness: how to get it and how to keep it

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Everyone wants to be happy.

Some think money will make them happy. Others think it will be having a wonderful, magical relationship. And yet others don’t really know what it will look like, but they want it, whatever it is.

Happiness (like money) doesn’t grow on trees. It doesn’t come neatly packaged in the grocery store either. In fact, as I’m sure you’ve heard many times before, you can’t buy happiness.

So how does someone deliberately set out to find happiness?

They look within themselves.

Happiness is an attitude. I have invented the word “Happitude” for this. It is the attitude of being happy.

So how do you find or create this Happitude?

Firstly you just decide that you are happy. Regardless of what is going on in your life, you look around – digging deep and really searching if it’s a bad time for you in general – till you find something, hopefully lots of things, that you can be happy about.

It can be big things or it can be just little things.

I have a friend who suffers chronic pain. If he is looking strained or moving slowly and I can tell he is obviously hurting more than usual just now, he will just answer any query on the subject saying he’s “a bit sore but my hair feels great!” He’s not letting it get to him, and is jokingly focusing on what is good instead of what is bad.

Another friend with all her family hundreds and in one case thousands of miles away is happy and excited that she gets to chat with them on Skype, and over the moon with her once in several years in person visit with her most distant son. She’s not focusing on what she doesn’t have (her family close by) but on what she does have and she is genuinely appreciative and excited about that.

There is always something to be happy about. It is a case of the glass half full or the glass half empty. Are you focusing on what you want that is there or at what you want that is not there?

That is all very well, you could quite rightly be saying, but it’s not as easy as it sounds. When life is tough it’s hard to look on the bright side.

Yes, it is, so here is a way to help yourself to keep your Happitude in high gear.

Journal.

What? Write out everything that happens to me every day? How will that make me happier, especially when things are not going well?

My answer to that is: do NOT write out everything that is happening to you.

Instead keep a Happiness Journal and in it, each day, write out only the things that made you happy today.

  • Did someone smile at you? That was nice – write it down!
  • Did you make it through rush hour traffic faster than usual and arrive home 15 minutes early? That must have made you happy – write it down.
  • Did you step on the scales and find your weight was down 2 lbs? Wow! That has to go in your journal.
  • Did you go shopping for dinner the ingredients on sale?
  • Did something you saw in the grocery store remind you of a meal you haven’t had for a while, but really love, so you got the ingredients?
  • Did your hair look better than usual?

What can you jot down that made you happy?

That’s the daily routine with your Happiness Journal and it helps you in two ways.

One is the obvious way, in that when you focus on the positives, you feel positive and happier.

So just be remembering these things, no matter how small (but of course, don’t neglect the big happinesses either) as you write about them, cheers you up and makes you happier.

The second way it helps is that when you are feeling low, you can read your previous entries in your Happiness Journal and come away from that realizing that things are not so bad – good things happen all the time.

I suggest you also write out your Happiness Ideas List in your Happiness Journal.

This just means creating a list of things that make you happy. Big things, little things, easy to do things, things that take a bit more time or preparation.

Everything you can think of. If it makes you happy, write it down.

Going for a drive, shopping, going out for your favorite meal, having a hot bath with lots of bubbles, listening to your favorite music. Whatever makes you happy, add it to your list.

Then when you are feeling fed-up how your life is going at this particular moment, you can check your list and find something in it that appeals to you right now, and do it. It’s you pick-me up checklist.

So decide that you are happy.

That no matter what the world throws at you, that you will continue to be happy.

Write it out every day, what made you happy.

Create your list of Happitude pick-me ups (your list of happy ideas).

And just keep writing and reading your way to a terrific Happitude and a much happier life than you could ever have without it.

Fiona MacKay Young

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Attract What You Want

Journaling Can Help You Achieve What You Want Easily and Successfully

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Do you find it difficult to believe in the Law of Attraction?

Do you find it difficult to believe in the Law of Attraction?

Do you, perhaps, believe The Law of Attraction works but are having trouble manifesting it in your own life?

If your answer to either of these questions was “yes” I have a solution to suggest to you.

Yes, it is a simple as that. Journal.

But do not just do a regular journal where you write out whatever comes to mind, about your day, your challenges, your successes. These are all very valid topics, as is almost anything else, for general journaling, but to work specifically on the Law of Attraction, I invite you to consider a focused or targeted journal.

This is a journal that zeroes in, or focuses on a specific topic, in this case, the Law of Attraction.

You write down what you want to attract, or manifest in your life.

You write it down always in the positive. So if you want to have no debt, you do not write that you want to have no debt. Instead you write about how you want to be financially stable or secure, with cash in the bank, and everything paid off. In fact the more specific you are, the better it works, so perhaps you could put exactly how much cash you would like to have in the bank.

As you write, be visualizing what it is you are asking for.  That should be easy enough since you have to be thinking of it to write about it, so visualizing is just taking it all a little slower so you have time to “see” it as well.

Do this for everything you want to use the Law of Attraction to bring to you.

Keep doing it.

Do not just write the same words each time but try to take a fresh approach to it. Think about how life will be when you have what you are asking for. Think about how it will feel and look. Write about how you appreciate the “side effects” of what you are asking for, as well as the “main event.”

Each time you see even a little of it arriving, journal it with gratitude and appreciation.

Journaling in this way has many advantages.

The thing about manifesting is that sometimes what you are asking for comes to you in a way you did not expect, so at first you just do not notice it. Or it comes in such a natural way, that although you enjoy and appreciate it immediately, you do not fully realize that this is the answer to your request until later.

When you have journal as you go, you can go back, re read and get a clearer perspective on what you have asked for, how you asked for it, and how it is appearing in your life.

Sometimes, you may re-read and decide that, no, this is not what you want after all, and may decide to “tweak” your request or change it altogether. Of course, this can delay receiving anything, but if your original request no longer fits your needs or wishes, then changing it is the wisest thing to do.

Journaling keeps track.

Our minds are funny things. We think we remember SO clearly, but if we have been journaling, we can go back and may often find out that what we remember is not what actually was. Our memories have twisted it or changed it in some way.

Journaling to ask, to express our feelings, our gratitude – sometimes even our pain – keeps an exactly record of where we are at any given point. And it also shows us beyond argument when our wishes are fulfilled.

By seeing, in a journal, when we receive an answer to a request, we then begin to believe me. And the more we believe, the more we receive.

Your Law of Attraction Journal can be the key to learning to trust that we can manifest our wildest dreams, and it increases our gratitude when we see just how often and how much we are already receiving.

So journal.  Keep a Law of Attraction Journal and watch your world change.

To your success, your happiness and your focused “Attraction,”

Fiona MacKay Young

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Ideas are priceless and fleeting: keep them safe.

Ideas are priceless and fleeting: keep them safe.

Ideas are priceless and fleeting: keep them safe, keep them from drifting off and evaporating.

Have you ever had a great idea, perhaps in the middle of the night, perhaps at any other time? Have you ever then forgotten what it was?

If you have ever had an idea at all, then the above scenario is probably true for you. There is no cure, but an Ideas Journal is excellent prevention.

Your Ideas Journal is a place to write down any ideas that come to you at any time, whether they seem immediately relevant or if they are ideas for some time in the future. Maybe at 2 am you will not have your ideas journal handy, but please do have a pad and pen beside the bed to jot down ideas as they come.

I keep paper and pen beside my bed and when inspiration strikes in the middle of the night, I scribble down on the pad what it is. In the dark, just making sure I leave plenty space between lines of writing then I can be sure of being able to read it in the morning.

Then I turn the page on my pad or paper, so that is I have another brilliant idea before dawn, I have a fresh sheet of paper willing to receive it. Of course, if you have a bedroom to yourself, you can turn on the light and do it the easy way!

If I am out and about, I have electronic sticky notes on my phone on which to jot down ideas.

One way or another, ideas need to be captured in writing at the time they first come to you. They have a very limited timespan and once they are gone they are usually impossible to find again.

Whenever I have ideas noted down in different places, I always add them as soon as I reasonably can, to my Ideas Journal. I have kept one for years.

To my mind, an Ideas Journal puts me under no pressure to actually do whatever the idea was. It is an idea. It is something to consider, perhaps to think over and develop farther, perhaps to decide that, yes, it’s a great idea but I can’t see me ever actually doing it. But it stays in my Ideas Journal anyway. How do I know what I’ll think is feasible in another few months or even years?

In fact, as I am writing this, I have just come up with another idea which I have just taken the time to note down in my Ideas Journal. I don’t know when I will do it, but it’s a pretty hot idea, and too good to forget.

If you, like me “suffer” from a zillion ideas, an Ideas Journal is imperative because how on earth could we remember so many? And we can’t tell at this point which will be the winners and which we will ultimately decide not to follow through on.

If your ideas come at a more decorous pace and don’t inundate you all day, then an Ideas Journal is equally necessary so you don’t lose one single one. Each idea of yours has a much higher percent chance (since there are less altogether) of being the best you’ll ever have. Don’t lose it.

One way or another, ideas are a priceless gift to each of us, and we owe it to ourselves, and maybe to others who would ultimately benefit, not to lose any of them.

I was looking through an old Ideas Journal recently and came across an idea I came up with several years ago and never did anything with. I had totally forgotten about it. But what a great idea it is! I am currently making plans as to how to use it. If it had not been in my journal, it would have been gone forever.

An Ideas Journal is not something you can make yourself sit down and write in once a day at a set time, as some people recommend for general journaling.

Ideas are inspiration, so you write in your Ideas Journal when inspiration strikes, and if inspiration strikes (as it does) at inconvenient moments, then jot it down somewhere temporarily and add it to your Ideas Journal as soon as possible, while you are still able to recapture the moment.

As you journal your ideas, expand on them. 

You are in the flow at that moment which you may or may not be when you read it later. So let the idea just explain itself, how it looks, feels, where it might lead, how you see it developing, what options you can see. Just let it take on a life of its own and record it all.

Later you may see terrific value in some of that expansiveness, or you may not, but you never know ahead of time which are diamonds and which are just pebbles, so write it all down.

Regardless of your lifestyle or your life situation, the chances are you have ideas.

They come to you for a reason. You may not know right now what that reason is, and you may not right now see any benefit in the idea. But write it down anyway.

You wouldn’t throw away a priceless gem that came your way just because you didn’t have a jewelry setting ready and waiting to receive it, would you? So don’t throw away your ideas either. There are priceless gems among them and time will tell which are which – but only if you still have them to evaluate.

Journal your Ideas. Now there’s an IDEA!

Fiona MacKay Young

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Here is a list of all “My Inspirational Journals” to date.

Some journals have quotes every time you turn the page and a fun gauge to rate your day.

And all journals have an index at the back for you to keep track of quotes or journal entries you want to remember for easy access.

Just scroll down to see the entire list, or look at the bar above this page, and click on the journal of your choice to read more.

My Healing Journalspurple-lotus-flower-with-water-hi (1)

My Healing Relaxation Journal: Release Stress, Create Calm

Creating MemoriesJournals for Creating Memories:

Journals for Creating Memories:

(all with quotes and fun rating gauge)
 

My Inspirational Mother’s Journal: Moments to Treasure

My Inspirational Relationship Journal: Write from the Heart

My Inspirational Journal for GrandmothersMaking Memories

My Inspirational Family Journal: Family comes First

My Inspirational Teacher’s Journal: The Things They Say and Do

My Inspirational Cruise Journal Land Ahoy!

My Inspirational Travelers Journal:Up, Up & Away

Achievement JournalsAchievement Journals:

(all with quotes and fun rating gauge)

My Inspirational Slimmer’s Journal: The Law of Reduction

My Inspirational Success JournalI can do it!

swirlPersonal Development Journals :

(all with quotes and fun rating gauge)

My Inspirational Happiness Journal: Keep the Sunshine in Your Life 

My Inspirational Love Journal: Write from the Heart

My Inspirational Motivation Journal: Reach for the Stars

My Inspirational Ideas Journal: Let Your Light Shine

My Inspirational Intuition Journal: Trust Your Inner Knowing

My Inspirational Law of Attraction Journal: Ask, Believe, Receive

 Photo-Art Cover JournalsPhoto-Art Cover Journals

Misty Seascape Journal  – the header photograph from this website as the journal cover.

Pansy Journal   – Dramatic Black and White Pansy photograph with bold red text

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Women Entrepreneurs Journals

Happiness & Success Journal for Women Entrepreneurs – with quotes to help you be happy and succeed in your business

 

Birth Flower Journals

Birth Flower Journals

One for every month of the year, with photo and description of birth flower and birthstone. Birth Flower Journals

Miscellaneous Journals:

(all with quotes and fun rating gauge)Miscellaneous Journals

My Inspirational Lefties’ JournalJust for Lefthanders

My Inspirational Vacation Journal for KidsFun in the Sun (packed with Activities)

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To your wonderful journaling experience,

Susan Morgan

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